|
|
Post by doubled on Feb 24, 2011 15:37:54 GMT -6
I'm amazed NOBODY has brought this up. Ok, a kid starts young, goes to camps, plays indoor or 6v6, ODP, and only down time is the LSA dead period in the summer, come, oh about 15 years old, the word "burnout"...or in the case of girls, the three B's, burnout, boys and drink. Am sure the coaches in the finals are happy Mardi Gras is after the finals...though they would never admit it publicly. I've seen this way too often and with all sports that play year round. I have always tried to encourage young kids to play multiple sports and not try to force them into only 1 sport. They will make a choice at some point in time. I played baseball with a guy who the old folks in the area said was the best they'd ever seen in our town. He quit baseball for good as a 10th grader, he got to where he hated the game because he did it so much and his dad pushed him so hard. My son has always been an All-Star, Travel ball Majors baseball player, he's a freshman and didn't even want to play for his school. He did play D1 soccer for 3 or 4 years but had quit when a baseball coach pushed him to make a choice; he is now talking about going back to soccer. My daughter (also a freshman) had gone the Travel VB route for the last 4 years but decided to play soccer for the school after a 2 year hiatus from the game. She made the varsity and has now decided to play just soccer; she didn't enjoy volleyball at school and really missed playing soccer. A little time away can sometimes rekindle the love for the game. There is no magic formula. |
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Feb 24, 2011 20:54:22 GMT -6
Yeah, there is a magic formula....
Keep drinking the kool-aid though....
|
|
|
|
Post by miraddydad on Feb 28, 2011 12:12:46 GMT -6
Hey Newbie, as parents we're always one bad decision away from making a serial killer ;-)
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2011 12:43:00 GMT -6
Seriously. The kid (boy or girl) has to really want to play.
I believe a player can develop if they spend the time working on their game. Not necessarily just by paying the fees and being on a premier team.
The problems arise (I believe) when a child is given "too many choices." Rarely do you hear parents say, "sure you can do X but that means you may have to give up Y"
Instead, all too often the " do it all" attitude prevails.
Decisions have consequences.
If soccer is your sport, then to maximize your potential you have to work on your game year round.
|
|
|
|
Post by oldhattrick3 on Mar 1, 2011 21:42:10 GMT -6
The problems arise (I believe) when a child is given "too many choices." Rarely do you hear parents say, "sure you can do X but that means you may have to give up Y" Really? you think so? Are you a parent? do you live in today's economy? In my circles this is often the statement made. hall, I understand you apparently live, breath, and bleed soccer (its apparent from your post), but the statement above I don't think is really what parents are saying in this day and time. |
|
|
|
Post by reddevil70737 on Mar 2, 2011 11:11:14 GMT -6
I don't know about that. I have multi players on my team that do:
Fall: Soccer. V-Ball
Winter : Indoor soccer, ODP, Basketball
Spring: Soccer, track,V-Ball, Softball
And to top all this off. She tried out for the cheer team at school last week.
I mean were do you draw the line?
I have a few like this. Last year one of my multi sport studs played 2 soccer games, 3 softball games, and played a V-Ball match all IN ONE DAY.
|
|
|
|
Post by lcpsoccermom on Mar 2, 2011 13:00:07 GMT -6
I have had 2 players go through select soccer and play in college. Soccer was their only sport-though Maggie did do cheerleading for a short time. the choice for them was that if they were going to play at this level then that was where there commitment had to be. they both did select, ODP and high school. ODP was eventually dropped because the injuries were piling up. She then had to make a choice and look at her talent and commitment level realistically. She also had to do that in making the decision to play in college. I learned with my son to back off-their soccer experience belongs to them. the only thing I can demand is that if I put up the money, then there is a certain amount of commitment that is required. It's important for parents to be realistic about their child's talent and commitment level. Burn out happens with anything-just because a child experiences it at some point does not mean that the activity needs to be stopped. It means that an honest conversation needs to take place about commitment and effort and priorities. Those all have to come from the child. And as a teenager, they have to begin to see that there are other benefits to being part of team that supersede drinking and partying. They have to be willing to sacrifice something for what they will get out of participating in a sport at a high level. But they have to own it, not the parents.
|
|
|
|
Post by reddevil70737 on Mar 2, 2011 15:57:55 GMT -6
Rarely do you hear parents say, "sure you can do X but that means you may have to give up Y Was at our house, and one of the happiest days was when our daughter chose premier soccer over dancing. I rather sit thru an 0-8 beat down in a driving rainstorm than a dance review... Second that!! I ask my youngest (3yr old) all the time if she wants to play soccer like brother and sister. All I get is "I want to be a ballerina". I am crying on the inside just thinking about those all day dance recitals. |
|
|
|
Post by reddevil70737 on Mar 3, 2011 9:15:52 GMT -6
Second that!! I ask my youngest (3yr old) all the time if she wants to play soccer like brother and sister. All I get is "I want to be a ballerina". I am crying on the inside just thinking about those all day dance recitals. Well reddevil, glad we found a common ground.  There has got to be some things we agree on. lol |
|
